Am I being selfish?

Ah…a nice coffee. Solo. In a coffee shop.

Am I being selfish?

Is it selfish to crave time to yourself in the morning with your coffee, your journal or your People magazine?

Uh, NO!

I love and need time to myself, and my partner supports this. (Well, at least he tolerates it? 🤪)

I couldn’t have it any other way, but all too often I hear my clients lamenting the fact that they can’t take care of themselves the way they’d like to because of their partner, spouse, children, job, etc…insert your own excuse here.

TOUGH LOVE ALERT

This is called sabotage. More specifically, self-sabotage, because you use others as an excuse for having what you want for yourself, your health or your wellness.

Can you relate? If you’re on a journey to take better care of yourself, put your own health and well-being first, have you noticed people close to you feeling threatened?

“Come on, have another drink, Twinkie, steak…"

Or do YOU yourself feel threatened, as you see things start to shift?

Such reactions boil down to fear.

Fear of not being accepted or loved, or fear of change.

Other people in your life who may not have the courage to take such a bold step, may unconsciously hope that you fail. Your success may be uncomfortably challenging for them.

When you take a step towards valuing yourself more, relationships might feel different.

When you start to change, YOU might feel uncomfortable and rebel.

This inner rebellion is often based on your own fear of transformation, of taking responsibility for your life.

All of this is normal.

But what if you stop hiding behind excuses for not having what you want?

What is possible for you if you take yourself out for coffee?